At the risk of sounding cliche and mushy, today my husband came back home from traveling all week for work and I was so excited to see him. We have been together for over 15 years and married for 9 this May. I've heard many refer to their significant others as their best friend, but I often wonder just how "friendly" they are toward one another. I can say without any hesitation that my husband and I are often best friends and worst enemies. The reason being that we know each other so well that we can't slide anything past the other. I know the difference between when he is utterly silent because he's happy and when he's biting his tongue because he's furious. He knows that when I say something is "fine" that it is absolutely not fine and I want him to ask me how I really feel. We both hate being apart and prefer to do things together, whether it's something as mundane as grocery shopping to the more exciting vacations and sight-seeing.
He fell asleep on the couch across from me tonight and I watched the comforting rhythm of his chest rising and falling. This is one time that my husband is actually at peace. When he's awake he is always moving. He's a planner, a worry-wart, the one in the relationship that stresses about the little things. So when he sleeps, he looks amazingly different. The clef on his brow that he constantly furrows is soft and smooth. His long eyelashes are any woman's envy. Hi body is relaxed and vulnerable, not all tense and perched forward, anxious. He's truly relaxed.
It's not often I have the opportunity to see him sleep. Being as active as he is, he's not a napper. Myself, on the other hand, I can will a nap whenever I have the spare time. Have you ever watched your other half sleep? I know we've all had the experience of awing over a slumbering baby or a nest of kittens all curled up, but what about your spouse? Something changes when they sleep. What never changes for me is how much I cherish him. He has become a part of who I am and when he's away my home feels empty. He is my heart and today my heart came home.
That's very sweet. It's nice that you have such a deep affection for him, better still that you have it after so many years, not a small feat among people our age these days.
ReplyDeleteI have watched my husband sleep. He twitches and snores. I like yours better-ha!